Have you ever Heard the saying: “It takes a village”? Well, I had heard it and in meaning I understood it, but these last couple of weeks I have realized how true those words are. “It takes a village” is an African Proverb that refers to the importance of the community in the life of children for them to grow healthy and safe. I work full time, as does my husband and my kids go to daycare. We have it pretty much settled on our day-to-day life. However, last month the exception happened. My kids got sick, so they could not go to daycare for a whole week, and guess what, I got sick, and my husband worked. When I tell you I got sick I don’t mean a cough and sinus, I mean slept-for-36-hours sick. I remember going to sleep with a massive body ache and waking up in the morning asking my husband to call my Pastor to see if she could help be with the kids after he got in for work. I remember being in bed, wrapped in blankets, seeing my husband, my pastor and my mother-in-law come in every couple of hours to wake me up for medicine, soup, and bread. I could hear my kids like fading background noise and one time that my pastor opened the door to check in on me I thought “it really does take a village….”

Fast forward two weeks and it’s my anniversary trip. We had it all planned out but suddenly, we didn’t have anyone to stay with the kids… I told my friend we weren’t going, and her answer was “I thought you were going to ask me to stay with Alfonso”, and so we talked, and she is currently baby-sitting Alfonso while my dad is baby-sitting Victor… So again, it really does take a village…. On the day of the trip, I was at the TSA line-up, and I see this mom with 3 bags, and the stroller, and the bottles, and everything and she is obviously taking her time to put everything through and says to me “I’m sorry you can go before me” but I understood her so well, I decided to stay behind and help her. Turns out it was her first time traveling with her baby and when I left, I told her: “it takes a village”.

All of this to say that this African Proverb doesn’t only apply to raising kids only, this proverb applies to everything in life. It takes a village to grow as individuals, as a marriage, as a community.

Independence is required of us to a certain level but a man by himself can’t live life. That desire to do everything alone, to be all capable and say we don’t need anyone is an egotistical thought that leaves us feeling empty and alone.

Look at everything that surrounds you and realize that nothing was made by one man alone. We need each other. Our greatness is not based on our capabilities and talents but on our ability to put those in the service of others, to work together with the people around us for the bigger picture. Life is greater than just us, and the sooner we realize that and live accordingly, the sooner we will be able to make things happen for us and those around us. 

We must let go of the idea of independency as the way of life. We depend on God for everything we do, and God has surrounded us with people that are key for the fulfillment of our purpose. Our tools alone don’t construct a building, we need what others have to make it happen. Anything you dream of achieving is connected to those around you, and this leads us to see people differently. This is not for you to walk around wondering what people have for you, but to walk knowing that the well-being of those around you is relevant to your own well-being. This is the revelation of the body of Christ… A body that has a hurt leg can’t walk, a body with a broken hand can’t construct the building… And you start realizing that you need to care for the body… You need to pay attention to the functioning of each part of it.

It takes a village my friends, life takes a village, but God has provided a village for each of us. Remember, take a moment, and look around. Appreciate, take care, and love those around you… The truth is we need each other.

See you in the letters,

Bianca Paola

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